Dear BP,

Porn is a great way to spice up in the bedroom. Softcore and movies with plots are an excellent starting point.

Playboy is notorious for their softcore titles. Check out Playboy Gen-X Girls or The Ultimate Pamela Anderson. Or maybe a girl-on-girl movie like Swank Digital's Adorable Girls #6 might put your wife in the mood. And before Jenna Jameson was hardcore, she made several sensual flicks under the Peach DVD label including, Interviewing Jenna, Jenna from All Angles and Jenna Jameson: Emotions.

Vivid has an amazing array of flicks that are not only tame, but have intricate plots. You may even forget you're watching porn. Director Paul Thomas is known for his big budget feature extravaganzas. Check out a few of his titles including To Die For, Desperate and After Midnight.

Try some of these more sensual flicks and you might just get your wife so into porn that she'll be begging for the hardcore movies.

Love, Betty

Dear Miss Sexy,

Squirting, also known as female ejaculation, is definitely an art that can be mastered. Basically, the squirting is aided or caused by stimulating the G-Spot or urethra. The fluid that is spewed out is urine, cum or a combination of both. The amount of fluid expelled when you squirt varies from woman to woman and the intensity of your orgasm. Don't expect to squirt every time, because you won't. And if you get too fixated on it, you won't be able to enjoy the task at hand.

Check out Nina Hartley's Guide to Female Ejaculation for some educational tips. And if you're interested in watching your favorite porn stars squirt, check out Flower Tucci and Squirt Queen, Cytherea in The Greatest Squirters Ever! or Combat Zone's Squirters with Taylor Nix and Chloe Morgan. Some of these experts can squirt on command by touching or spanking their clits—it's absolutely amazing!

Good luck on your squirting adventure.

Love, Betty

Dear KLM,

If you've ever checked out WantedList's Pornstar WetBar section, you'll notice we quiz the porn stars about best and worst pick up lines. Most of these beauties tell us they don't like cheesy pick-up lines and that the direct, honest approach is best.

But before you head out to find an unsuspecting girl to join you in some debauchery, you might want to get some sex tips from those in the know. Women like seduction and seducing a woman is a lot of what will get her in your bed. Nina Hartley is the Queen of how-to/sex education DVDs. Check out Nina Hartley's Guide to Seduction and learn how to do it right. Next, I would suggest that you check out Nina Hartley's Making Love to Women. Make sure you take notes and get the techniques down. You may want to view the DVD several times.

And last but not least, women love confidence. Go out there and be confident, not cocky, and you'll definitely find a hottie to go home with you. Good luck!

Love, Betty

Dear Emil,

I have to agree with you that when a girl finishes a man off, it's far more titillating. I would check out these flicks featuring stellar performances of women completing the deed:

There's a very hot scene in Vivid's The Masseuse - yes, Jenna Jameson gives Justin Sterling a lot more than a massage.

Adam & Eve have a compilation called She Sucks. You can catch scenes with Carmen Luvana and Jewel DeNyle jerking their male counterparts off. All I can say is hot!

And in Red Light's She Bangs, Sunny Lane gives her on-screen fiancé one of the best handjobs ever seen on film, while her character still feigns that she's a virgin. In another scene she finishes off Tommy Gunn with her mouth.

And lastly for movies purely about blowjobs, check out Ninn Works' Pop #4: The Beauty of the Blowjob or Red Light's Throat Gaggers #10. Both titles live up to their advertising.

Love, Betty

Dear Madame M,

Sorry to hear your sex life is on the decline. I'm happy to help, but I do want to let you know that I'm not a physician. So, you might want to consult your doctor and do what he or she recommends.

Personally, I believe your husband's not wanting to have sex is a phobia. His breathing problems started when you two were having sex. He probably feels his breathing problems will return once you two start being amorous again.

Try this - start out slow. Just some kissing. Then, graduate up to giving him a mind-blowing blowjob. Work your way up to having full-on sex. This will allow him to get over his fears, let go and enjoy himself.

Better than a cocktail, porn might be the prescription he needs to get him craving sex again. Try a porn with a plot. He'll get into the movie and turned on at the same time. Here are a few choice selections:

Digital Playground's Pirates is a porn swashbuckler—it's got great locales, an amazing plot and some of the hottest porn starlettes around including Carmen Luvana, Devon and Teagan Presley.

Private's Sex Angels 2 is a combination of porn and hot, crime fighting babes. A lot like Charlie's Angels, only hotter.

Take a trip to the Orient and watch VCA's Memoirs of a Modern Day Geisha. This flick is not only beautifully shot, but highly arousing.

Hope this helps! Betty

Dear Jill,

Love, Betty

Dear Confused,

Love, Betty