Dear Megster:

How nice of you to help your man out with his de-hairing needs. Most male (and female) porn stars head to straight to a licensed cosmetologist (the ladies who work out of a salon or your nail place). Waxing lasts longer than any other type of hair removal—it can last anywhere from 2 to 7 weeks. In time, you will see that the hair will become thinner/finer, lighter in color and softer. And, it's safer if you have a licensed professional to take care of your needs, rather than trying it at home (unless you like red bumps, uneven amounts of hair, ingrown hairs and/or bleeding). Yes, it might be expensive but it's definitely the way to go.

As for Nair, I personally would heed the warning on the label. Also, if you use Nair, your man's hair will generally grow back in a rough stubble. If you really want to take care of things at home, I would suggest the Dare to Be Bare Trim Set.

Hope this helps!

Love, Betty

Dear Delirious:

WOW. You are asking for a lot there. Have you talked to your wife and see if she's cool with all this type of stuff? That would be a good place to start.

If she's OK with your dressing in lingerie and her being large and in charge, I would suggest you both view some domination DVDs. Start with Adam & Eve's Nina Hartley's Guide to Sensual Domination #1 and Nina Hartley's Guide to Sensual Domination #2 —this should help you both understand how domination works. After you get the idea, I would suggest viewing some dominatrix movies—this will take you to another level. Check out some bondage like flicks like Voyeur Media's Fetish Fucks, Combat Zone's Naughty Girls at Play and Gothic's Rubber Manor . We have a slew on these type of movies if you look under genres and pick BDSM.

As for her being with other men, I think you should explore the domination element and setting limits first. When you are ready to bring another man in, discuss what will happen and what you're both OK and not OK with. Really decide if it's something youd both want.

If you are looking for some hot lingerie for you to wear, we've got that too. Take a look in our toy section and see what strikes your fancy. I would suggest a black crotchless g-string, a latex bra and panty and garter hose.

Good Luck!

Love,
Betty

Dear S:

If you're in a master/slave relationship, you can say no. I'm sure you have safe words and/or limits that are set. If not, it's something you might want to think about. I think you need to decide if it's something you really want to do. Can you visualize yourself with another woman? If so, I can help you.

I would suggest you rent some girl-on-girl action DVDs—if it gets you hot, you might be interested in seeing what it's like to be with another woman. Zero Tolerance's Girlvana #3 has a cavalcade of hot porn starlettes getting it on including Audrey Bittoni, Puma Swede, Nikki Benz and Tory Lane. Another one to watch would be Digital Sin's Leztravaganza #2 with Jenna Haze, Courtney Cummz, Sativa Rose and Rozy Deville. Adam & Eve's Carmen & Ava is a beautiful film with beautiful women—I think you'll like it. For more movies, look under the All Girl genre on our site.

And for an educational flick, check out Adam & Eve's Nina Hartley's Guide to Sex for the Bi-Curious Woman —this will give you an insight to what it's really like when it's not staged and just you and another woman. Nina also has movies about 3-ways which might be good for you to watch, including Nina Hartley's Guide to Threesomes: Two Girls & A Guy.

Have Fun!

Love, Betty

Dear Bailey:

What a birthday gift! Most women just want diamonds, but go figure.

Sometimes when things change too much (like with a move), life can be stressful—it can be hard to enjoy the things that we used to in the past. Or maybe you two have been together a long time and things have gone stale. Whatever the case may be, I would suggest you mix things up a bit. Make your sexual adventures real adventures. Just adding a few new things can make a world of difference:

• Toys. Yes, toys can bring sex to a new level. Vibrators are a huge turn on for women. And if your girl is way turned on, you'll be totally into it—give her an orgasm that will make her scream and you'll see. Try Stormy's Strobing Massager Vibrator. Maybe you'd like to have some fun alone—the Cyber Snatch can help you with that. It is made of a jelly-like substance and it vibrates. Feel free to imagine you're having sex with your fave porn star.
  
• You can try bringing another woman into the bedroom, if she's cool with that. Check out the tips I given men and women on 3-ways in the Dear Betty archive.
  
• Watch porn. How can you not be in the mood after seeing hot women get it on?! Check out Adam & Eve's Eden —go on a mini tropical vacation with Carmen Luvana , Ava Rose and their friends. If your girl likes a storyline, put Wicked's Black Widow in your queue. And for a few hot girls having a good time, watch Red Light District's Fuck It Like It's Hot.
  
• Buy your girl some lingerie—check out our selection in the toy section of our site. Seeing her in a babydoll with a g-string will remind you why you found her hot.

Love,
Betty