Dear Squee:

Great question! Yes, I have to agree with you that porn can't replace intimacy. When I have someone special in my life, I like to watch porn with them—it's a great adventure, a total turn-on and enhances our level of intimacy. In the times that I've been alone, I still enjoy watching it. My imagination goes crazy and I feel like some of my fave porn stars are there watching me masturbate (or when I'm masturbating I imagine having sex with them). So in a way, I feel like I am having sex with them. When you don't have someone to hold you or give you the intimacy you need, your imagination can be your best friend. Honestly.

So…I would suggest to you a few things.

• First get some movies with your favorite porn starlets in them and let your imagination go wild. I really dig Gianna, Belladonna, Jerry and Erik Everhard. These are my faves and might not be yours. I would suggest you check out stunning blonde Casey Parker in Shane's World's The Girl Next Door and Lost in Puerto Rico, super porn vixen Sophia Rossi in Club Jenna's Sophia's Revenge and Provocateur and/or Latin hottie Jasmine Bryne in Hustler's Kill Jill #2 and Wicked's Thigh Spy. But, peruse our site and find the girls that turn you on. We even have a Top 10 of the most popular girls.
  
• Next pick up a masturbator (a sex toy for guys) that features the ass, pussy and/or tits of one of your fave girls—then go to town and experiment sexually with it. I would suggest Gina Lynn's Super-Tight Pussy Masturbator, Brianna Bank's Vibrating Pussy and Anus or Jessica Drake's Futurotic Pocket Pal.
  
• Maybe hit a strip club. A lap dance is a form of intimacy. Maybe not exactly what you are looking for, but it could do the trick.
  
• And lastly, get back out there and start looking a new girl. It will build your confidence and you might find someone who will give you the intimacy that you crave.

Love, Betty

Dear Mr. T & S:

Most of the softcore movies don't have a plot. Feature movies (ones with plots) are generally hardcore—some of them have such intricate plots that you forget you're watching a porn. Digital Playground's Pirates, which is now available on our site in HD-DVD, is like this. It's a beautiful movie set on the high seas/tropical locales—plus, the sex is rather low key (no anal, group sex, etc.). You might also want to check out Wicked's Curse Eternal and Mobsters —both are period pieces with great plots that are available in HD-DVD as well as the basic DVD format. Click on the Features genre to find more of these types of movies

If you still can't get your wife interested in these movies (but I really do think she will enjoy them), I can suggest a few softcore movies. Vivid's L.A. Swimstyles is all about girls in bikinis (OK, you might have guessed this from the title without me telling you). Playboy's Centerfold Video: Jenny McCarthy, The Ultimate Pamela Anderson and The Best of Anna Nicole Smith feature women you both are probably familiar with and might find hot—we have 48 other Playboy movies that are softcore as well. And lastly, many of our members enjoy the Girls Gone Wild series—you might want to view Girls Gone Wild College Coeds #2 or Girls Gone Wild Mardi Gras 2K4. For more softcore movies, click on the Softcore genre link.

Happy viewing!

Love,
Betty

Dear Master:

Yes, dildos can vibrate. Dildos are made one of two ways. You have the basic dildo that can be inserted into the vagina or ass. Then, you have vibrating dildos that can be used on the outside to stimulate the clit and/or external labia as a vibrator, or used for penetration. In fact, you can turn the vibe on while using it for penetration—this will give you or your girl quite a turn on. I personally like vibrating dildos the best because they are like 2 toys in one.

Are you thinking about buying one for you or your girl? We've got some really great ones! We've got ones that are hard, smooth, realistic and jelly-dong like. The Lex Steele Vibrating Realistic Dildo is very popular—it's an 11inch replica of Lex Steele's member and it's made with PleasureSkin which is not only realistic, but feels really good. If you're feeling crafty, you can make your own. Yes, you read right. The Make Your Own Dildo Kit can be molded from your penis and takes realistic to a new level. And, she'll always have you with her when you're away. And for a new level of kink, try the Jelly Vibrating Double Dildo. You'll be amazed at all the things you can do with it.

Hope is answers your question.

Love, Betty

Dear JB:

We're glad you're a WantedList member—great choice!

The Classics—another excellent choice! We have over 500 movies for you to choose from—just click on the Classics genre. But, I can definitely suggest a few. My all-time favorite (and the first porn I ever saw) is VCX's Debbie Does Dallas. Bambi Woods and her hottie cheerleader friends will do anything (and I do mean anything) to go on a cheerleading fieldtrip. If you haven't seen this one, it's a definite must-see. VCX's Charlie is another flick with a great plot, only this time it's a love story. Historic Erotica also has some great movies—these movies are true classics. Some are even in black and white and date back to the 40s. The plots can be a bit trite and/or cheesy but they are amazing. Check out Lube Job, What You See Is What You Get, Love on a Saturday and The Slutty Professor. And lastly, nothing says classic like a John Holmes DVD—check out Gen XXX's John Holmes: The Original Boogie Knight, Taboo Entertainment's John Holmes: The King of X and Hollywood Video's Boogie Down With John Holmes Volume 3.

Once you get your wife all hot and bothered with old school porn, you might try some current flicks. Feature movies have great plots, wonderful cinemagraphic quality and even some acting (yes, porn stars can act). Vivid Director Paul Thomas, the king of feature films, did an updated version of Debbie Does Dallas called Debbie Does Dallas…Again. It's true to the original and stars some of the hottest girls in porn including Hillary Scott, Monique Alexander and Lacey Heart. Vivid's Pipe Dreams is another one you should rent. Adam & Eve's Lady Scarface stars Carmen Luvana and has more twists and turns than a rollercoaster. Click on the Features link for even more movies.

I hope this helps!

Love,
Betty