Dear LT:

The dating scene can really be a downer. Trust me, I know. But, getting laid is as important as breathing.

I do highly recommend Adult FriendFinder.com, Sex Search.com and Flirt.com. You can browse through guys' profiles and see what they have to say and more importantly what they look like. Talk to them on the phone first or ask them to have a drink with you—you're a woman and you can rely on your intuition as to whether someone is a serial killer (or worse). I've personally used it (I'm tired of bars and casual encounters on that guy Craig's site) and I totally recommend it. Also they have webcams, if you want to be naughty with the person over the computer before attempting it in real life. Just a thought…

As for regular dating/romance websites, that can be tricky. I have tried them all and had varying results. No one will think you're a pervert, because everyone uses the online approach to meet people. I will warn you a lot of guys are on there just for sex. And, I prefer AdultFriendFinder for that. You should take the chance and try. Make sure you put up recent pictures, write an engaging profile and be honest (honesty is the key). If you want a serious relationship, try to hold off on the sex for at least 3 dates—I know this will be hard since you haven't had any for awhile, but trust me it will work. And when you do have sex, use condoms—it will cut the chances down significantly of you getting an STD like AIDS.

Until the man thing pans out with a one-night stand, fuck buddy and/or a permanent relationship, I would suggest that you buy some new toys. Of course, you're bored if you only have a dildo. If you want a new dildo that will really do it for you, I would suggest the Bandito Candy Violet Dildo —its swirls and curved arch for the g-spot will leave you screaming for more. And if you're a fan of Sex in the City, I'm sure you're familiar with the Hitatchi Magic Wand. They have come down in price, last forever and no girl should be without one. My current favorite vibe is Doc Johnson's Lucid Dream –it is the most amazing vibe ever! It always hits the spot, if you know what I mean. And if you really want a “man toy”, how about a male lovedoll?! Yes, they do make them. Check out The Black Male Vibrating Doll that has an anatomic dick that vibrates or the Construction Man Doll –either way you're in for quite an adventure.

I hope this helps and you get lucky soon!

Love, Betty

Dear Red:

Sounds like someone likes to see themselves in porn. Undertandable.

Veteran porn chick, Kylie Ireland is a redhead but with green eyes and she has been in tons of movies that are features like SexZ Pictures' huge blockbuster Corruption, along with Vivid's Stalker and Layout. Dani Woodward is another redhead, but she has blue eyes—catch her in Vivid's X Marks The Spot and Club Jenna's Krystal Therapy.

Flick Shagwell has a similar look and an English accent—you can watch her moves in SexZ Pictures' Upload. And you can put Never Ending Redheads, a 6-disc set, in your queue—it features all these lovely ladies and some other luscious redheads (and some girls who were briefly redheads).

As for alternative movies, you should check out movies directed and produced by Eon McKai—he does Suicide Girl like porn. Yes, the girls have piercings, tats and wild hair color. Check out Vivid Alt's Bad Luck Betties, Debbie Does Dallas…Again, Neu Wave Hookers and Girls Lie. These aren't features, but more like vignettes (little stories) and are quite interesting without any fetish craziness.

Also, you might want to check out movies from director/performer, Joanna Angel. Same type of girls, but her movies have a sense of humor to them. Put Adam & Eve's Not Another Porn Movie, VCA's Porny Monster and Burning Angel's Cum on My Tattoo #2.

Happy viewing!

Love,
Betty

Dear Philly Phil:

Wow. I think the first thing you need to do is try and figure out what has changed since you got married. Do you have a fear of commitment? Marriage is a huge commitment.

Maybe your wife physically changed and you're not attracted to her. Has she gained or lost weight or completely let herself go? Does she nag you? Has she lost interest? These are just a few answers to what the real issue could be. But, you really need to think about this and do some serious soul searching. Really.

There is one other possibility. Do you take any kind of anti-depressants? They can interfere with your ability to cum. Betty once had a boyfriend who could go all night and never came due to happy pills. If you aren't on pills and this issue continues, you might want to have a chat with your doctor. Or, maybe go to couples counseling. Talking about these types of issues can definitely shed light on things.

In the meantime, I can make a few suggestions that will perhaps change this scenario. Watching porn is a great idea, but add some toys to that equation. Are you aware there are now toys for men? You and your wife can share the experience together (or you can fly solo other times). I would say get yourself a male p-spot (p for prostate) stimulator. This will definitely put you in the mood and you might just cum before you start fucking her. This is a powerful toy! I also think you should invest in a vibrating cock ring —cock rings help you stay erect and give you larger than normal orgasms. And, the vibration added to that will be a plus for both you and your wife.

And, I think your wife should get some lingerie. Eye candy always drives the men crazy. No need to head to Victoria's Secret—log on to the site and pick some things out for her. Crotchless black lace panties are a great place to start. A see-through babydoll and g-string will get you thinking nasty thoughts (or more). And a corselette that will allow her boobs to be exposed will definitely make you hot. Look under the lingerie tab for more tantalization ensembles.

I hope this helps,

Love, Betty

A Special Note From Betty:

Thank you for all your questions, offers for 3-ways and your patience (I get a lot of questions, so it takes time to get around to them all).

And remember, no problem is too big or small. I'm here to help. So, don't be shy—write me.