Wow. That’s a lot of information and some very heavy questions. I will give you my opinion on all of this. But, please remember that I’m not a licensed therapist or doctor.
That being said…Many couples enjoy strap-on sex with the woman chasing the man around, catching him and having her way with him. Many men (straight, bisexual and in between) consider this a fetish and a normal part of their sex life. If you and your wife enjoy this together that is great. I can recommend a few amazing strap-ons we carry, including the Heart Strap-On Harness By Sportsheets and the Vibro UR 3 Vac-U-Lock Harness that actually vibrates for a little extra pleasure for you both. A lot of our customers have written us and told us how much they really love both of these strap-ons.
As for the tranny porn…a lot of straight men watch tranny movies. That’s why we carry it on our site. Watching tranny movies doesn’t make you gay or even bisexual. You could be gay or bi, but tranny porn is another fetish (like the strap-on). The fact that you want to act on your fantasies is another issue. Ask yourself if you really want to blow a tranny. Some things are better left as fantasies and not to be acted upon. Betty has had a few fantasies of her own that she wished she hadn’t acted on. Really. If you are even thinking about doing this, you definitely should tell your wife. Really talk to her about it and see how she feels. Maybe you two should watch a tranny movie or two together. If she is very much against it, you’ll have to decide which is more important, having your fantasy fulfilled or your marriage. And if this is something you must do, play it safe. Make sure the tranny is STD free and you use condoms if you can.
If you and your wife would like to check out some tranny flicks together, I would suggest checking out Combat Zone’s Bare Back Mount Him, Meltdown’s My Girlfriend Is My Boyfriend, Platinum X’s Su- She Male and Magnus’ Females on Shemales.
I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck with this venture!